Post wedding photos at Normanton Church

Post wedding photos at Normanton Church

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Sophie and Patrick had been due to get married in Italy, but then Covid struck and everything had to be cancelled. They didn’t let this spoil their wedding though they simply switched things up and got married right here in Rutland. 

I wasn’t allowed in to the ceremony which was held at Oakham Registry office. I beleive this is because they are using the smaller room at the moment so only the couple and their two witnesses are allowed in. 

Instead I met Sophie and Patrick at Normanton Church on what was one of the hottest days of the year and we captured some family photos and couple shots for them. 

Please note: the couple had been living through lockdown with Sophie’s parents so they were able to attend their wedding and not socially distance.

Here are a few photos from their perfect day, all finished off with an ice cream, because, well, it would be rude note to! 

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Micro wedding normanton church rutland-9
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Micro wedding normanton church rutland-11
Micro wedding normanton church rutland-11
bride and groom normanton church
bride and groom normanton church
Micro wedding normanton church rutland-11
Micro wedding normanton church rutland-11
A micro wedding in Oakham, Rutland

A micro wedding in Oakham, Rutland

Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography

With all of the changes currently taking place it certainly looks like Micro weddings are going to be around to stay for a little while and of course here at Amanda Forman Photography I am ever adapting and am excited to show you exactly how FANTASTIC a micro wedding can really be. 

So firstly, what is a micro wedding? Is it the same as an elopement? Well in all honesty the amount of people in a micro wedding is constanly changing, had you asked me last week I would have said a micro wedding would be one containing 30 people or less, but as of last night it is 15 people or less and yes they can be just as much fun. 

A micro wedding is smaller in size than a standard wedding, costs a lot less (hurrah), it is usually shorter in length and is a lot more intimate. An elopement is something that is usually done in secret and is often just the couple, two witnesses and their photographer if they choose to have one (which of course I suggest you do so that you can share your images with family and friends) 

I will of course go in to more detail on Micro weddings on a seperate blog post as I don’t want to take away from this INCREDIBLE micro wedding of Jessica and Steve in Oakham. 

Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography

The day started as I feel all weddings should!! with the bride in an Elmo onesie at home, in her slippers!! Both Jessica and Steve were getting ready together at home with their family. This is an unconventional way of starting the wedding morning but one that as a photographer, I love as it meant that I got to capture both bride and groom prep and it was just so relaxed. Jessicas incredible make up artist was Liz Staniland who I have worked with on several weddings now and comes highly reccomended. You can find her using the links at the bottom of this post if you would like to get in touch. 

Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography

Jessica and Steve had their wedding ceremony at Oakham Registry office. For now at least they are not allowing anyone other than the wedding couple and their two witnesses in the room but I was there to capture their arrival and departure and we all cheered when we heard the words ‘I now pronounce you man and wife’. It did feel a little odd to not be right there in the ceremony but we found a way around it and though this was the case for Oakham registry office it isn’t the case for all micro weddings, it greatly depends on the venue size and location (outdoors has a little more flexibility).

Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding bridal prep Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography

Of course a wedding wouldn’t be a wedding without confetti of some sort. Jessica and Steve had picked and dried some lavender from their garden, it smelt so good! After confetti we composed some socially distanced group shots and then the group headed over to the reception venue, the wonderful Hitchens Barn in Oakham whilst I held the couple back and captured a few photographs just for them. 

Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography

Weddings are of course exempt from the rule of 6 which came in to effect last week just before their wedding and we all breathed a sigh of relief. Because of this the couple were able to book out the top floor of Hitchens Barn for their micro wedding reception. It is such a beautiful location and perfect for anyone planning their micro wedding, the food was mouth wateringly good with the cheese soufflé being the star of the show. If you are interested in booking Hitchens Barn for your micro wedding just get in touch with Louise or Neil and I am sure they will be happy to help.

Micro wedding Hitchens Barn Oakham
Micro wedding Hitchens Barn Oakham
Micro wedding Hitchens Barn Oakham
Micro wedding Hitchens Barn Oakham

After dinner and speeches the couple retired to the local Hambleton Hall Hotel for their first evening as newlyweds, but not without first having a few more photos to celebrate their wedding day. They exchanged wedding day gifts just before I left them for the evening, feet dipped in the warm outdoor pool and relaxing in the sunshine. What a perfect end to an incredibly perfect day.

Guys I wish you only the best for the future and can’t wait for your wedding celebration party!!

Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Hambleton Hall  Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Hambleton Hall  Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Hambleton Hall  Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Hambleton Hall  Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Hambleton Hall  Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Hambleton Hall  Oakham Amanda Forman Photography
Micro wedding Hambleton Hall  Oakham Amanda Forman Photography


Make-Up – Liz Staniland MUA

Hair – TBC

Dress – TBC

Flowers – Brides own creation

Shoes – Irregular choice

Reception Venue – Hitchens Barn

Hotel stay – Hambleton Hall 


If you would like to enquire about prices for your micro wedding simply get in touch using the button below.

Irnham Hall Winter Wedding

Irnham Hall Winter Wedding

November saw my last wedding of 2019 at Irnham Hall and wow what a wedding to end the year on!

Jamie and Victoria were married in the stunning grounds of Irnham Hall, chosen because of it’s relaxed feel, walled gardens and the fact that it is wheelchair accessible – a huge plus for Victoria as her Grandma was her flower girl, yes you read that right!! so she needed to be able to easily get around the venue.

It was a cold and foggy day when I pulled up to Irnham Hall on the day of the wedding, I love days like this as it creates such a wonderful atmosphere in the photos and everything looks that little bit more special.

Victoria was getting ready with her bridesmaids just down the road in the Griffin inn which is also owned by the Leila and Jamie at Irnham Hall. I am not sure I have encountered a more chilled out bride on the morning of her wedding. She was up and down the stairs making tea and toast for everyone and topping up champagne, always with a smile on her face.

One piece of advice I always give my couples when they are planning their wedding is to think about what they will be wearing when getting ready and to think about who they would like to get ready with. This is key as whatever you are wearing will be photographed and you want to look amazing don’t you? 


Meanwhile the boys were getting ready at the couples home and as they had booked a second shooter for the day my incredible second shooter Dan went along to spend the morning with them. There were lots of nerves and some laughs when the groom realised he had forgotten the money for the registrar, thankfully his brother and best man saved the day!!

The wedding ceremony took place in Irnham Hall’s beautiful orangery. The light in here was incredible and it was such a wonderful and intimate space. 

You may remember I mentioned earlier that Victorias 93 year old grandma was flower girl. This actually made my day, she did such a fantastic job and looked so happy to be playing such a big part in the day. 

The rose petals were grown in Victorias Grandads garden, he sadly passed before the wedding but having the rose petals made it feel as if he were there in some small way to celebrate the day with them. 

The reception took place in the summer house at Irnham Hall, and whilst beautiful all by itself it was styled to perfection on the day by the incredible team at the Rustic Wedding company.

Using a mixture of foliage, hurricane vases with candles, tall stem vases, gold and silver charging plates and antique french lights it really was something special. 

Victoria and Jamie booked the incredible Funk Soul Brother who are managed by DG Music right her in Rutland. 

I love a wedding with a band, the dancefloor is always full, they just know how to get people up and on the dancefloor and that without doubt creates some of the best dancefloor images. 

Steal their style


A blustery wedding at Normanton Church

A blustery wedding at Normanton Church

It was blustery day back in August for Rebecca and David’s wedding at Normanton Church in Rutland. 

Rebecca was getting ready at Rutland Water golf Course with her mum and bridesmaids and all was calm when I arrived with prosecco flowing and lots of laughter. 

I started the day the same way I always do, by photographing the details. Rebecca’s beautiful flowers were by Penny at RS Barnwell Garden Centre

Her shoes were one of her favourite accessories for the day, a truly stunning pair of Manolo Blahniks, I have never been more petrified taking a pair of shoes out of their box!

The interesting point came when I asked if she would be wearing a veil so I could use it to photograph her jewellery on……. it wasn’t there, it had been left at home and with no way of getting it to us………… panic ensued!! 

Luckily, I run a networking group in Rutland for Wedding proffessionals and before long we had the wonderful Naomi from Lace and Pearl Bridal Boutique on her way to us with the perfect veil to match Rebecca’s dress. 

Panic over normal service resumed and before long it was time to leave for Normanton Church.

Meanwhile my second shooter was with the boys at the couples home along with the best man, parents and page boy. 

I always love it when my couples book a second photographer for the day, it is nice to see what the boys get up too in the morning and it seems such a shame for them to be left out.

Amanda!! Thank you SO much for everything on Friday.
We absolutely love our sneak peak and can not wait to see them all. You were truly amazing on the day and everyone has commented on how gorgeous the photos were in the slide show. Dan was also a dream for the boys and we couldn’t have asked for anything more!
Thank you again for being so fab and for saving the day with your bridal connections!!
Mr & Mrs Keefe xx

Rebecca and David chose the simply stunning Normanton Church for their wedding ceremony. I love photographing weddings here, the inside of the church is so light and airy and the smaller size of the church makes it feel so much more personal and private. 

Usually I will run in to the church before the bride arrives to catch some photos of the groom nervously waiting for his bride to arrive whilst his groomsmen rib him for punching above his weight and joke that his bride isn’t coming 😉 This time however the atmosphere in the church was not one of nervousness, David was calm and relaxed and joking with his friends and the registrars. It was so lovely to see and a great way to start the wedding. 


After the ceremony I would usually set up group shots outside the church as we have it for about another 30 minutes after the ceremony but at our pre wedding meeting we had decided that the photos could be taken at the golf course and we could optimise the time at the church to take some photos of just Rebecca and David. Given how windy it was this worked perfectly and allowed all of the guests to head back to Rutland Water Golf Course for canapes and fizz. 

Normanton church is the perfect backdrop for wedding portraits and having a little extra time we were able to get lots of variation for their wedidng album. 

Rebecca and David had styled the gorgeous marquee at Rutland Water Golf Course to perfection. I love details on a wedding day and there were so many different personal touches here. 

The best thing about the marquee is that it is actually inside a barn type building at the golf course so it isn’t effected by wind and they have even installed fairy lights in to the canopy permentantly so it looks like a night sky when the sun goes down. 


Another special advantage to having your wedding ceremony at Rutland Water Golf Course is the fact that you can have confetti on the grounds. 

You aren’t allowed to throw confetti at Normanton Church, so when you arrive at the golf course they arrange the confetti line there for you.

After group photos and prosecco and canapes it was time to sit down down for the wedding breakfast. 

This however, was the exact time the majority of the UK had a power cut! I was sat editing images in the bar area ready for the same day slideshow that the couple had booked when everything went dark! Luckily the food had all already been cooked and was being served and no one seemed at all worried, the staff at the Golf Course were on it as always! 

We were quite lucky in that the power came back on after only 10 minutes, the rest of the UK weren’t so lucky. 

I always look forward to the speeches at a wedding and Rebecca and David’s didn’t disappoint. The laughs were plentiful, embarassing stories in full swing and tears were flowing. 

After the wedding breakfast we were able to slip back outside with Rebecca and David for a few more photos at sunset, and given how windy the day had been we were blessed with a beautiful sunset. It also proved to be the PERFECT time to practice the first dance. 

After the sunset photos we headed back inside to cut the cake. They had cut their sweet cake a little earlier so now it was time to cut the cheese cake…..I love a wedding with cheese as a cake! especially when it comes from Otters in Oakham.


Steal their style

Ashes Barns Wedding

Ashes Barns Wedding

I thought it might be fun to re introduce the Ask the Bride blogs and what better a wedding to start on than this one at the Ashes Barns 

Georgia and Liam we married at the Ashes Barns in Leek earlier this year and even though rain had been forecast for the whole day we were blessed with some beautiful weather and were able to get out and about in the gorgeous ground for some photos. 

Here is what Georgia has to say about her big day. I hope you enjoy. 

How did you and Liam meet?

Liam and I met whilst at college when we were 16. I met him as he was considering getting his nipple pierced in a piercing shop! He was friends with my school friend justin (one of the best men) so I went in to meet him and ran into the topless liam. Who obviously made and impression. 

Tell us about the proposal  

Liam proposed at the Harry Potter studio tours. Just as we walked through the famous doors into Hogwarts school, He bent down on one knee and asked me to marry him. All I remember is the magical music playing  and him saying ” well put it on then” regarding the ring as I was obviously in shock after saying yes. It was the most magical and exciting moment of my life so far. He knew it would mean the world to me to do it there, and I love him for that.

How did you find the wedding planning process?

Wedding planning was actually very fun and only stressful in the last month or so. 

Due to me wanting everything to be perfect. And having all the odds and ends tied up nicely. I only got stressed when something was out of my control. Ie the weather and handing my ideas to somebody else to create something. 

Tell us about your dress, what did you accessorise with?

I actually wasnt hung up about my dress being the best dress I will ever wear. I just wanted it to go with the feeling and tone of my wedding. Once I found it online. I tried it on once and that was IT! I loved the fact it wasnt white and that it wasnt anything anyone expected. 

I accessorised my dress with a flower crown. My mum and I put it together with other flowers I found and added beads and hair accessories to create the crown it was on the day, I do wish it didn’t  have as many pins in on the day! (If you know, then you know!) 

I also wore all white leather converse. That was something Liam & I thought of ages before the wedding as that’s much more our style. The whole wedding  party wore either Van’s or converse even my mother. I am so glad I did as I could dance all night and was so comfortable. It looked cool too!! 

What was most important for you on the day?

The most important part of the day for me was the actual ceremony. It was a dream and it was so romantic. The music and flowers and having everyone I love in one room was lovely. I look back at that moment  with such fond memories. Writing our own vows was funny and emotional, and I was so touched when liam shed a few tears. I think hearing Liam’s vows to me was my favourite moment of the entire day. I loved it. 

What was your theme for the wedding?

We didn’t have a theme. I just had more of a vision for the day as a whole and I wanted to create everything I could myself. I didn’t want it to look like something out of a magazine. I wanted it to feel like us. Everything pretty much had a reason for its creation. From the table names being our favourite movies on flags, made out of my old sketch book paper, too the ivy from the bottom of our garden hung over my table setting on a crate from our favourite garden centre. Our wedding was definitely a ‘homemade’ wedding. 

Why did you choose your venue?

The Ashes Barns was the second place we viewed and I knew straight away it was the one. From the moment you drove down the long entrance road we had a wow feeling. Everything was in one place. Which I recommend. From ceremony room too accommodation all on one plot made it very easy to plan. The girls there were amazing and very friendly, and it was a beautiful setting. Much more beautiful than I saw online. It was rustic and had greenery surrounding it. Even the stone walls were beautiful. I couldn’t recommend the Ashes Barns enough.

What is your advice for future brides?

My advice for brides is to plan and get organised as early as you can. Get everything done so you leave a good few weeks before your big day free.

The worst thing you can do is be stressed up until your nuptials. Leave a few days free with your partner to just enjoy each other before you get married.

It honestly does go so quickly so enjoy the day with all your loved ones and remember it’s about the love between the two of you, not about everybody else!! 

A Handful of Wedding Planning Tips [Part 2]

A Handful of Wedding Planning Tips [Part 2]

A Handful of Wedding Planning Tips [Part 2]

Another Brief Introduction

Welcome to the second instalment of the Wedding Planning Tips saga. For those lucky enough not to be aware of Part 1; it happened in blog post far far away; where topics such as Budgets, Guest Lists & Save The Dates were discussed. For those for whom the Force is strong; you will be aware that that particular post ended with the promises of additional topics being covered; and with that the wedding planning saga continues!

But don’t panic it doesn’t have to be a solo affair..

Part 2 – The Big Take Away [to save you reading the rest]. As with Part 1, Part 2 iterates the same key point! There are very few things that are really worth losing sleep over when planning a wedding. And I’m not just repeating myself for lack of new content; nor because I’m planning to drop in another very loose Star Wars analogy..

 Just remember, as a wise author once said “No, seriously. At the end of the day; you; your partner and some witnesses are all that’s needed! The rest of it is just matrimonial fluff [well, with the exception of a photographer obvs].”

But as promised. lets move on and ramble on around the topics of:

1. A Photographer –  Look Pensive & Do Not Show Too Much Skin.

2. Wedding Fairs – Like a Normal Fair But Less Fun

3. Etiquette / ‘Schzmequette’ -Breaking From Tradition Brides Just Wanna Have Some Fun!!

4. Groomsmen – The Suits, The Responsibilities & The Faux Pas

5. The Wedding Breakfast – To Give Guests a Choice OR to Force Feed Them Chicken [Vegetarians Beware]

1. A Wedding Photographer [Look Pensive & Do Not Show Too Much Skin]

Given the site that you are currently on, it is likely that you are considering the hiring of a wedding photographer; or alternatively you are very lost and are desperately trying to navigate back to cat videos.

The average couple in the UK spend substantial amounts of money on their wedding day, so it makes perfect sense that couples are eager to preserve that memory with top-notch photography. Which is why picking the right photographer is important; because after-all the alternative may leave you keeping the ‘album’ hidden out of sight for the rest of your wedded life.

Here are some tips that should assist with you finding your kindred spirit

Top Tips:

  • Review their past work (portfolio, sample album)
  • Ensure they are showing recent work. Not just that ‘perfect wedding from 10 years ago..’
  • What are they providing you as a product?
    • i.e. unedited images, edited high res images, water marked images, an album]
  • Are they insured?
  • Meet the photographer before booking where possible but at the very least before the wedding; talk about what you want from their services.
  • Ask questions

Most importantly you need to TRUST your photographer. You need to trust that when they provide advice on posing they are helping you look your best. Meeting your photographer before your wedding will really help with this trust building, so make sure you make time! If your prospective photographer will not meet you before the day; that’s your call. BUT would you buy a car before taking it out for a test drive? [the original analogy was veto’d by the wife…].

Personal Insight: During our wedding; I was told many things, mainly ‘stop messing around and focus’ but during the small amount of time my mind was on the prize; I was told two things which stuck with me.

  1. Look Pensive: This was my staple ‘look’, because I like giving off an an air of pretentiousness which at the time I equated to faux-pensive. And secondly; even Gromit would mistake me for Wallace when I smile. #cheese
  2. Too Much Skin: Most importantly this has nothing to do with ‘flying low’. One of the take-aways from my wedding was the importance of leaving your wrist on show slightly, thus to break up the line between trouser pocket and jacket sleeve. Otherwise it just looks weird! Even more so than my ‘cheesy Wallace face’.. I am told.
Wedding Planning | Amanda Forman Photography
2. Wedding Fayres / Like a Normal Fair But Less Fun

Not necessarily a necessary evil; but for those who have a full-time job, and would prefer not to spend all their free time for the next 12-28 months drowning in wedding crap. You may consider a wedding fayre or two, as, if used wisely they are an efficient use of time. And when it comes to weddings, efficiently using ones’ free time has been known to assist in keeping ones’ sanity.

Depending upon your level of commitment [to the wedding fayre idea, not the wedding in general] you can either head to a local fayre or a national one.  In my experience, national wedding fayres felt a little more high maintenance than the local ones; but each to their own.

More Personal Insight: We [Amanda and I] visited both types during our planning stage; to be honest my distain for national ones was akin to that usually saved for ‘those who stand on the left of an escalator’. This distain was primarily due to the size, overcrowding and inherent feral nature of some of the visitors. I personally preferred the more local fairs, usually hosted at actual wedding venues.

Obviously, any wedding fair will obviously grant you access to many wedding related services within a small amount of time. The benefit of the more local fayre is that they are located at actual wedding venues. Meaning that if you are lucky you can visit a fayre at the venue that you are also considering for your ‘day’. This provides a good opportunity to see the venue dressed for a wedding, meet local suppliers and also the staff at the venue.

Most importantly; never forget to pop and say hi to the ‘Photo Booth’ team; and use the opportunity to secure a cheeky photo as a memento of your trip to the fayre.

Wedding Planning | Amanda Forman Photography
3. Etiquette / Schmeziquete [Breaking From Tradition & Brides Just Wanna Have Some Fun!]

This is a difficult topic to discuss. You may have picked up on the subtle undertones, but just to be clear; I’m not a traditional type of person, nor would I classify myself as needlessly needing to follow etiquette.

What I quickly realised following a 2.1 second power Google, was that you could likely find any preference dressed as a tradition. It appears that traditions and etiquette once originated from history, royalty etc etc; now it appears to be perpetuated by ‘celebrities’ and wedding magazines.

Tradition ‘fun facts’ to drop into conversation

  • The original meaning of the word bride was actually just ‘cook’ – We don’t think this one will go down too well.
  • Apparently if the groom doesn’t turn up to the wedding, it is the best man’s responsibility to take over and marry the bride.
  • Western Brides wearing a white dress was started by Queen Victoria in 1840

More Personal Insight: During the wedding planning phase of tomandawedding, we primarily focused on the things that we wanted; and only gave attention to etiquette when said etiquette meant something to us, rather than merely because of its status

#tomandawedding was initially meant to be the combination of Tom and Amanda. But as it turned out, everyone just read it as ‘Tom and a wedding’; which to be fair also made sense, as it was MY DAY.

I guess the take away, and therefore the main point that I’m trying to make is. Try and avoid chasing the ‘rabbit of etiquette’ down a hole; because before you know it you’ll have an entire wedding day dictated by everything that is likely not even important to you, because you feel like you should.


Wedding Planning | Amanda Forman Photography
4. Groomsmen [The Suits, The Responsibilities & The Faux Pas]

In essence, picking your groomsmen is simple. Select people that will be both useful on the day; and that you are close to! After all weddings are about friends and family.

Keeping in mind that a basic life fact [like gravity], is that every social circle has the token ‘let down’ [politest way I could word it]; the person that’s always late, cancels at the last moment; etc etc. This is NOT the type of person to give responsibilities to at anytime; but especially on your wedding day.

Note: Should you be thinking ‘I have no such person in my group of friends’, then here is a fun fact; it is YOU. So after reading this you should tell your better half how lucky you are..

But to the point! The basic responsibilities of the herd / grromsmen include [but are not limited to]:

  • Assisting the groom on the wedding day,
  • Be in charge of the ushers [in the event that the ushers aren’t also groomsmen]
  • Keep the wedding bands safe until needed during the ceremony [usually the best man]
    • wedding bands is wedding lingo for wedding rings. Do not hold the DJ hostage..
  • Stand next to the groom during the ceremony,
  • Act as the legal witness [again usually the best man]
  • Prepare a “best man’s speech” to be read after the wedding breakfast!
    • wedding breakfast is wedding lingo for dinner / supper / tea – depending on where you are from.
  • Look epic in the group photos

Take away: pick people you are close to, who you trust and that are relatively responsible. It may also be worth preparing to get the veto discussion with your wedding collaborator…

Oh and make sure at least one of them can tie a cravat / tie

Wedding Planning | Amanda Forman Photography
5. The Wedding Breakfast – Give Them a Choice OR Force Feed Them Chicken [Vegetarians Beware]

Disclaimer: All joking aside, this section is not about making flippant remarks about vegetarians or vegans, nor about anyone with dietary  requirements. Because as you, the reader will likely know, recent news events have highlighted that making such jokes is NOT OK. I’m not discriminating I have a family member who is a vegetarian.. This section is actually just about the pros / cons of giving your guests menu options.

No Choice – You Shalt Eat Chicken

You may instinctively believe that no choice is the easy choice; your guests will simply eat what you tell them to eat. And if you have invited 50 children who will all happily eat MacDonald Happy Meals [other fast food chains are available] then this maybe true.

However if you have invited 70-100 adults, it is fair to say a hand full of them will not even like chicken; nor your vegetarian option!

At that point you have two very basic options;

  1. Pander to them and start offering other options on the quiet to guests who dont like chicken
  2. Explain that your wedding is X months away which is plenty of time to learn to like CHICKEN.

Assuming you are not like this author and have an underlying urge to be liked, then option 2 probably isn’t the right one for you. Unless you enjoy ruling your wedding with an iron fist.

Not providing your guests with a choice (outside of vegetarian and vegan) usually works out a little cheaper. The overhead of caterers being able to satisfy multiple types of each course usually adds a surcharge to your bill. Worth noting however that there is always a vegetarian option available at no additional cost; and the vegetarian option can also be adapted to be vegan.

Pro Choice – What Shalt Thou Eat?

Giving your guests an option for each course usually keeps 99% of the guests happy [there is always one]; and providing menu choices with your invites and receiving their responses along with the RSVP is the normal process.

Although you’ll have to do the administration of this, it is incredibly helpful on the day if peoples name cards on the table also have their menu choices printed on them. Why you ask?

  1. Guests will have selected their menu choices months prior to your wedding and may not remember what they chose.
  2. It is not uncommon for people to suddenly prefer the sight of their neighbours food and ‘pretend‘ thats what they in fact ordered.
  3. Your guests will no doubt to talking to each other, so place names that can be turned around to show staff what everyone is eating saves time and disruption.

As mentioned in the the ‘No Choice’ section; providing options to guests will likely increase the costs of your catering bill; as there is extra resources and effort involved in making varying dishes. This is just one of the costs of getting married, as is the cost of corkage, over priced holidays [honeymoons] and pretending that a ‘toaster’ is something that you have always wanted, and have in fact lived without until this very day..

Test Your Menu! 

Any caterer worth their salt #foodpun will suggest you visit their premises and taste your menu; DO IT

  1. This is a great chance to try your menu, which is good for many reasons
  2. The tasting is usually free assuming that you have already booked them; and everyone likes free food

it is your responsibility to check its free, don’ take this authors word for it

Person Insight [the last one] Amanda and I opted to give our guests menu choices. This was well received by most. We tracked RSVPs and Menu Choices via an elaborate Excel Spreadsheet [other spreadsheet applications are available] with VLOOKUPs and conditional formatting [Excel skills are sexy].

Why am I telling you this? Because tracking RSVPs as them came in meant that I could provide our Stationary Company with all information needed to create place names along with the menu choice; thus removing the ability for our lying, cheating and general mischievous guests to cause an incident.

and there was much rejoicing
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